I’ve been wrestling with the idea of resilience for months. I see its value, I’ve relied on it for decades, and I try to model and encourage it with my own kids—but my feelings about it have been complicated.
My friend Kyle Shepard often talks about resilience as something we *practice*, and I deeply agree. But your use of the word *perform* just made everything click. Performing resilience is for others, or for moments when something external forces it out of us—the version of resilience I’m currently struggling with because of the stress and overwhelm it induces in me. Practicing resilience, on the other hand, is for our own benefit. (I could go on and on… and clearly still formulating my thoughts... 😉)
Once again, you’ve put into words something I’ve been attempting to untangle. This is a serious ah-ha moment for me. You’re such a gift—thank you, my friend!! 🧡
Yeah, baby, can life get steep sometimes. Good to hold onto those handrails. The concept of scaffolding--a frame to hold us together--is such a clear visual. In that sense, how could we not protect it, protect ourselves? I hope you have a worthwhile rest of your Sunday, whatever that looks like for you. And also, now I'm craving muffins.
I love the concept of handrails. We sure need them sometimes. Those small "breaks" in the timeline of chaos and busyness can be lifesaving. Literally. Our bodies know what our minds can override. When you've reached your limit, you are told. Let's reach for our limit, and still give ourselves more grace. The lit candles, a short walk outdoors, no matter the weather. Connection with Nature, with your dog, your cat, yourself. Yes, to all! Thank you. Love, Virg
Alex, sometimes I think the small steps forward or even the steps to move back into my body and retreat a little from the world are not only nourishing but vital. What you've been writing this year resonates a lot with my own experience, as I grapple with questions about how I can honor my needs while still maintaining the life I've built. But that also leads down this trail of - are there places or things or people I can set boundaries with, because maybe I've been over-functioning and can't sustain that anymore? Maybe I need to step outside of reminding everyone in my home to follow through with their responsibilities and let the chips fall where they may (which would be VERY difficult for me). Anyway, thank you for sharing your heart with us, always. Grateful for you and I'll talk with you soon!
I’ve been wrestling with the idea of resilience for months. I see its value, I’ve relied on it for decades, and I try to model and encourage it with my own kids—but my feelings about it have been complicated.
My friend Kyle Shepard often talks about resilience as something we *practice*, and I deeply agree. But your use of the word *perform* just made everything click. Performing resilience is for others, or for moments when something external forces it out of us—the version of resilience I’m currently struggling with because of the stress and overwhelm it induces in me. Practicing resilience, on the other hand, is for our own benefit. (I could go on and on… and clearly still formulating my thoughts... 😉)
Once again, you’ve put into words something I’ve been attempting to untangle. This is a serious ah-ha moment for me. You’re such a gift—thank you, my friend!! 🧡
Yeah, baby, can life get steep sometimes. Good to hold onto those handrails. The concept of scaffolding--a frame to hold us together--is such a clear visual. In that sense, how could we not protect it, protect ourselves? I hope you have a worthwhile rest of your Sunday, whatever that looks like for you. And also, now I'm craving muffins.
"Three things. Small enough to keep. Boring enough to protect."
Oof. Needed that.
I love the concept of handrails. We sure need them sometimes. Those small "breaks" in the timeline of chaos and busyness can be lifesaving. Literally. Our bodies know what our minds can override. When you've reached your limit, you are told. Let's reach for our limit, and still give ourselves more grace. The lit candles, a short walk outdoors, no matter the weather. Connection with Nature, with your dog, your cat, yourself. Yes, to all! Thank you. Love, Virg
Alex, sometimes I think the small steps forward or even the steps to move back into my body and retreat a little from the world are not only nourishing but vital. What you've been writing this year resonates a lot with my own experience, as I grapple with questions about how I can honor my needs while still maintaining the life I've built. But that also leads down this trail of - are there places or things or people I can set boundaries with, because maybe I've been over-functioning and can't sustain that anymore? Maybe I need to step outside of reminding everyone in my home to follow through with their responsibilities and let the chips fall where they may (which would be VERY difficult for me). Anyway, thank you for sharing your heart with us, always. Grateful for you and I'll talk with you soon!
Completely an inspiration. Always always care for yourself before you can ever take care of anyone else. It’s the least selfish act ever.
Inspiring! 🙏